You know what I love about freelancing?
You know what I love about freelancing?
As I mentioned a few weeks back, I am currently in the process of querying, and for the first time I feel like I am actually doing a good job.
Now, for those unfamiliar with the term, querying refers to contacting literary agents and hoping they like your work enough to want to work with you.
Over the past few weeks, I have noticed that the process is eerily similar to asking a girl out.
Think about it.
Firstly, you always present yourself in the best light. You talk about yourself and what you do, and hope they like what they see.
You learn about their interests and preferences, and modify your approach to convince them how you can cater to those.
You adhere to their rules, even if you do not understand or appreciate them.
“Double-spaced manuscript? Sure! Why? Well, this is not for me to ask, is it?”
You start feeling good about yourself. Why wouldn’t you? You’re nice. You have worked hard all your life. You should have confidence in what you bring to the table.
After you have poured your heart on the page and hit the send button, however, you find every single thing you would have done differently, from that one comma before a conjunctive adverb to that shirt you wore to your high school graduation. What teenager appreciates Pink Floyd! Well, there is nothing to be done about it now.
And once you do send it, you are consumed by your curiosity. You cannot possibly just sit there and wait for a response; you have way too much on the line. Unfortunately, that is what you have to do. You cannot keep badgering them.
“Did you read it? Did you like it? Did you like me? Say, want to make this official?”
You may keep thinking that the whole day, but saying that will get you labelled a creep. You do not want that, do you?
And if, as is quite likely, maybe you get a rejection. And not even a thoughtful, well-crafted rejection that tells you what you did wrong or what you could have done better. Nothing that shows you that they respect the efforts you made. Just, “Yeah, I don’t wanna…”
Obviously, your heart sinks. You are devastated. You want to ask, “Why? Why not me? What do I lack?”
It is true. It is natural. But ask yourself this, is that the kind of men you want to be? Really, are you going to be that guy?
Surely, there could’ve been many reasons why you did not make the cut.
Maybe they’ve never seen a guy like you and don’t want to take a risk. Maybe they’ve seen too many guys like you and want something new. Maybe this is just not the right time for them. Maybe they are already with someone. Or maybe they believe you are just not ready.
All understandable reasons, you would realise.
So, what do you do now? Well, you cannot keep wallowing forever, right?
Maybe you work on yourself a little more. Understand what sets you apart, and what holds you back. Present yourself better. Maybe trim down on some of that mass around the middle.
You keep improving, and you keep looking. Because you know that once you find the right now, together you are going to build something magical.
In the end, that is what makes this endeavour worth it.
Gah! I am so tired… I’m in so much pain…
Why, you ask? I mean, I hope you do. You seem nice, after all. Okay, I’ll tell you.
Have you heard of a thing called the Halo effect?
It is basically why women forget about the pain of past pregnancies and choose to have another child.
If you think about, it is the entirety of Domino’s business strategy. The remote possibility of some remnant of a happy memory will draw a customer back is the only reason they are still in business.
Now, you see, I love playing basketball. The thrill, the joy, I can hardly put it in words. And that is basically what I am supposed to do, right?
So, anyway, I haven’t played much over the past few months. Hardly any since I hurt my knee in May, and definitely none since I moved in July. I have been back to the gym and on the court, though. Nonetheless, the feeling of a real game is not something you can ever emulate in any solo drill.
As it would turn out, I had forgotten quite a few things about the game over these months.
I am still good at making passes, which is a relief in itself, but getting into spots where I can receive passes was something with which I really struggled tonight.
And my defence, in general, was just abysmal. Like, for the first few possessions, I seemed to have no idea where to go or what to do.
Luckily, I am a quick learner, and apparently an even quicker relearner. Within half an hour, I had improved drastically in every aspect.
That is when it hit me; I had forgotten the most important thing about basketball.
It hurts… Hurts like hell… Hurts like a hundred nails being hammered into my shins… Hurts so much that I have been whining about it for the past four hours!
Of course, it is not like that will stop me from going back, tomorrow evening.
Yeah, it will hurt, but it will be worth it.
Well… At least as long as I don’t break my knee, or my shoulder, or my ankle, or something new.
I like cheesecakes and I cannot lie
You other brothers can’t deny
That when a girl walks in with an itty bitty plate
And a cheesecake in your face
You get sprung!
I love good food.
Maybe you’ve had a long, dreary week. Maybe your spouse is being especially annoying. Maybe you didn’t get any sleep because your cat peed in your bed.
Whatever may go wrong in the world, the moment you put that first spoonful of cheesecake in your mouth, all your pain and sorrow just melts along with its soft, creamy love…
Unless you are lactose intolerant, perhaps. Or diabetic.
Still, you know what I mean, right? Food does have the power to change the world, your world, from the inside.
It is not surprising that I love good food. Who doesn’t, right?
Well, at least that is what I used to think, till I really went out in the world and met more people.
“Tell me what you eat and I will tell you what you are.”
— Anthelme Brillat-Savarin
I often notice that people who have no appreciation for good food are rather bland individuals.
I mean, look at this:
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How can I ever trust someone who does not love these, right? Sounds reasonable to me.
“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.”
— George Bernard Shaw
So give me some cheesecake, and you will see how much I can love you.
When it rains, it pours.
We have all heard this, right?
Well, throughout the course of my life, I have always found it to be true, but rarely have I experienced it quite as literally as in the past week.
Last Saturday, we saw 265mm of rainfall in a span of 8 hours. In contrast, the average rainfall for the entire month of July is 317mm.
And according to meteorological experts, the worst is yet to come.
Sounds like a good time to jump off SS Sinking Ship, if you ask me…
The odd thing is that we have now come to expect and accept what are clearly major anomalies in the weather. Getting the entire month’s rainfall over a single weekend cannot be normal.
Just imagine it: Can you eat a month’s worth of food, and then not eat for the rest of the month?
Okay, “a month’s worth” is not very specific, I suppose.
Consider it this way… An average adult consumes roughly 2500 calories a day. That is 10 slices of a supreme pizza from Pizza Hut. So, roughly 300 slices a month. Now, does each pizza have 6 slices or 8? Let’s assume the latter. So, 37.5 pizzas.
Now, imagine trying to eat 37.5 pizza in two days. Will you eat yourself into the hospital or into bankruptcy, that is the question.
Wait… I forgot the point I wanted to make… And now I want pizza.
The point is, never try to get work done when you’re starving.
And maybe stock up on food and water and drinks and batteries, and get ready to stay indoors for a fair part of the week.
And for the love of God, turn off those ACs that are permanently cranked up to 22°C. You are only making it worse.
A storm is coming. And, by all accounts, it is only going to get worse.
Have you heard of Murphy’s law?
I have mentioned it once before on this blog, so I would expect that you have…
The precise wording still remains unclear, but the general interpretation is that everything that can go wrong, does.
Now, I generally stay as meticulous as I possibly can, and try to keep the margin for error so slim that the consequences do not pile up.
However, all it takes is one jolt to put everything way out of order.
I cannot quite trace where this sequence began, but I have been feeling that these days, whenever I try to do something, whatever can go wrong just does.
For instance, every afternoon, I go to play basketball at court significantly far from my home, and between the extreme heat all afternoon and the kids’ training all evening, I get precisely an hour to play.
Now, as it is, my margin for error is already not great. But what can go wrong? Well, apparently, quite a lot…
Sometimes, I will get dressed, put on my socks, and be half a dozen steps from the door, when splash! I step into a pool of fresh, warm pee.
Yeah, our kids are not entirely trained, yet. Have I talked about them earlier? I should.
Now, cleaning it up, then washing my foot, luckily not feet, and changing the socks takes up roughly a quarter of the hour. Significant.
Sometimes when I do not step into pee, my vehicle just refuses to start.
Of course, my vehicle is ancient, so I tend to include a buffer for that. But when it is so broken that I have to go to a mechanic, as I already have twice this week, that is more than 25 minutes easily.
If my vehicle does start after the first few tries, and I get to the court right on time, I should get an entire hour to play, right?
Well, not if it starts to rain with little to no warning. Not enough to actually cool down the scorching streets, of course. No, it will only rain enough to leave the court unplayable for just about an hour.
And, if I do not step in pee, manage to get there on time, and it does not rain, what happens?
Well, a guy manages to jump onto my leg, breaking my knee and leaving me bedridden for over a week.
Now, on the days that a guy does not break my knee, and of course also the day that he does, I will come home drenched in sweat, longing for a nice shower. That is not too much to ask, right?
Considering how often I have stood under the shower with not water raining down on me but the realisation that, well, the tanks are empty, apparently it is.
When the tanks are not empty, I go into the shower, let the water wash over my skin, and just as I am starting to work up a decent lather, the door bell rings. Repeatedly. Incessantly.
Having washed myself as much and as fast as I could have, I come running down the stairs, only to realise that my Dad is indeed home, and has answered it already.
And if this does not happen, my shower is completed without any incident, what happens?
I come out of the shower, a towel draped over my head, leisurely wiping my hair, when I suddenly realise that those are not droplets of water that I feel creeping down my shoulder.
I am, however, a moment too late, as I sense a dozen successive bites across my shoulders and back.
Freaking ants! Sounds ridiculous, right? I mean, what are even the odds?
Already a couple of days have passed since that particular incident, and I still have no clues how those ants ended up in my towel.
Now, in the face of such odds, it would be understandable if one were to grow dejected.
However, I have found that the uplifting words of a great man, one Dr. Ken Jeong, always get me up and running.
Not today, kind sir. Not today.
PS: I have been trying to take a shower for the past 4 hours. It would appear that the odds are against us, tonight…
Now, as most of you would already know, I tend to be a bit of a loner.
Most hours of my day are spent in the musty interiors of my room, furiously staring into a screen.
Even when I do go out, unless I am with a close friend, I will probably just sit in a corner and mind my own business. Striking up a conversation with a middle-aged man sitting at the table next to mine is usually the last thing I would do.
And yet, oddly enough, that is exactly what I did today… And, I came out of it with a few interesting thoughts.
You see, some people are just, as the kids these days call it, ‘woke’. They are conscientious enough to question this world of ours, and intelligent enough to glean some answers.
Now, to quote eden ahbez,
While we spoke of many things,
Fools and Kings,
This he said to me:
Of all sexual aberrations, chastity is the strangest.
— Anatole France
Of course, I am not quoting him verbatim, but when do I ever do that?
Essentially, his argument was quite simple. Our society has an extremely unhealthy outlook towards sex, and that needs to be changed.
Now, obviously, nobody can quite deny that, but his candid ideas were unexpectedly refreshing.
I think I will quote him verbatim, this time:
“Is it unfair for the youth of our country to expect the freedom to cherish a candid moment with their beloved in a public place that is maintained by their own tax payments?”
Well, it is fair, right?
He was of the belief that what India needs is a more sexual revolution, presumably similar to the one that originated in America in the ’60s.
Me? I am more of a moderate. I believe society will change as we, the parents of the future, choose to mould it to our liking.
Of course, having seen this glacial change come to a halt through his lifetime, he probably thought I was naive to think things what change unless we force them.
Well, even Newton’s First and Second Laws of Mechanics seem to support him. But, on the other hand, I must cite the Third Law: Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
Nonetheless, things cannot be allowed to stand the way they currently do. Right now, far too many people have a warped understanding of sex.
As long as we keep viewing sex as something one person gives and another gets, instead of it being seen as an experience to be shared by two (or perhaps more, but let us stick with the basics for now) persons, there is no way forward.
And, as the gentleman paid his bill and rose to leave, he leaned over one last time to leave me with his parting words, “By the way, I am a big follower of Osho.”
“Ah,” I responded, as realisation dawned on me. “I see.”