Do you have children? If not, would you like to?
And no, that is not an offer, only an enquiry.
It is just that lately, due to recent changes I mentioned last week, I have been pondering over the challenges of being a parent. Only the challenges, unfortunately, and none of the rewards, because, well, are there any?
I generally like to think of myself as a ‘silver-linings’ kind of a guy, but in this case, I just cannot see beyond the dull greys.
Children are stupid. That is just a simple truth. Sooner or later, they will find a way to put themselves or you or someone in grave danger.
Sure, they may seem cute while they are clean and quiet, but you cannot expect them to stay that way for too long.
Being a parent is tough, it is often said, but there are many who would disagree. In fact, even I would disagree. Being a parent, in and of itself, does not seem all that tough.
However, being a good, responsible parent, one who can strike the right balance between care and discipline and is attentive and neither too aloof nor too clingy on a consistent basis, now that is a tall order.
Interestingly, I forgot to pack any nightwear for my trip to Bangalore. Now, if I cannot even be trusted to be responsible for my luggage, how can I even comprehend being responsible for an entire new life?
On top of everything, we never receive any training whatsoever for what is undoubtably the most important endeavour one can undertake, but thank goodness I spent decades learning how to calculate the area of a cordate.
To be honest, I do not even like this idea of unilaterally creating life and then nurturing it according to our will. It is almost too much power for a single individual. For one, if I have noted anything in the past couple of years, it is that too many people are too stupid.
Of course, it is not entirely a unilateral prospect. Bilateral at the very least, right?
So, until I do not have a willing partner, it is all moot.
And, well, looks like it will stay that way for at least the foreseeable future.