Word of the Week #192:

Lamina

Are some people better than others?

“He/she could do so much better…”
“How on Earth did he/she land someone like that!”
“He/she is just not good enough for you…”

How often have we heard these words? How often have we said them ourselves?

It is probably a natural thing to say, I suppose, considering:

  1. I’m at that age where scores of my acquaintances are getting engaged or married every passing week
  2. How pervasive arranged marriages are in my geographical vicinity
  3. I actually said all three of those over the past weekend

However, the question remains… Are some people better than others? 

If we really thought about it, we would conclude that humans are—obviously—too complex to be assigned a single, objective rating, right?

What if we considered something simpler? Something inanimate?

Can we rate different tools in terms of their utility? Are hammers better than crowbars? Pliers over screwdrivers?

The answer would probably depend on whom you ask when. Sure, power drills are useful—and objectively cool—but one would not really use them to fit a new sink, right?

I suppose the same could be true of humans, right? The person I want on my basketball team might not be the one I want on my publicity team. The person I want as a business partner might not be the one I want as a romantic partner.

And, in hindsight, if someone ever questioned my choice of mate, I might be tempted to bash their skull in with a crowbar. Just saying.

Word of the Week #191:

Diaphanous

Is life easy? 

Is your life easy?

Because, sure, you can look at someone else’s life and think, “Boy, they have it easy. If only I…”

We do do that, do we not?

Our own life rarely seems easy.

It can seem good, yes, but knowing how hard we have had to work and how many things have had to go the right way to make it as good, we will never think it was easy. Instead, we might even get anxious about it, right? 

What if I am not able to keep working this hard for the next 5, 10, 20 years? My life will come crashing down!

What if I do keep working hard and things still don’t work out? What if something random goes wrong and my life goes up in smoke.

Knowing that our wonderful little lives are nothing more than a house of cards can be daunting, and knowing that we cannot control how the wind blows can be harrowing.

How do we then keep our lives from crashing all around us?

My answer is quite simple: WE DON’T.

There are some things that are just beyond our control. That fact will never change.

That is the curse of humanity: Sentience and potence without omniscience and omnipotence.

So, what do you do?

Well, you could do nothing, and simply give in to the entropy, but that is not what you want to do, right?

Instead, why not just learn how to rebuild your house of cards? Each time you try it, build it faster and better. 

Simple.

That makes things easier, right?

Any way the wind blows,
Doesn’t really matter to me.

—Freddie Mercury, Bohemian Rhapsody

Word of the Week #189:

Ruminate

So, I have been thinking a lot about myself.

Surprising, eh? 

Well, to be specific, I was thinking about what I want from my life and how far I am from my goals in each aspect. I realised that random, unfocused thinking would lead to no results. I needed a system.

Thus, I did what I do best: I turned abstract thoughts and ideas into numbers.

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Looks pretty, right?

I don’t want to propagate the “Lonely Writer Guy” trope. This was really just the status at that very moment. Matters of the heart can change rapidly, and with little warning.

Money is good. I have as much as I could want, right now.

The rest, well, is a work in progress.

It is interesting, right? And helpful, too. Already, I have begun incorporating significant changes in my life based on this assessment.

I have completely transformed my exercise schedule and my diet. I have begun taking better care of my hair and my eyes.

I know what I want, and I go get it.

I wonder if everyone can do this.